Her portion is always smaller. “Amma always served Appa first, then my brothers, and finally me. I knew which plate was mine it was always the one with the smallest portion,” she recalls.

In my early years in Sri Lanka, my mother, father and I lived with Appa's (Dad's ... Maybe it was Amma's way of paying me back for years of late-night clubbing? Amma and I also have different ...